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Friday, June 24, 2016

Funeral Planning on Father's Day

It is with a heavy heart that I come back to the blog.

Days before this past Father's Day, we had a tragic death in the family.

My Stepfather's youngest brother, Doug, hung himself. It was sudden, and it is as yet unexplained. Very often, when stories of a suicide come to light, we hear of a note being left behind; or a journal that explains everything; or some sort of heartfelt letter on a computer or social media.

Unfortunately, at least at the time of writing this, I know of no such thing happening here.

My Mom, Stepfather Dave, and the whole family are still in shock- And as one might imagine, grieving at levels that thankfully many do not know.

...as one might imagine, [they are] grieving at levels that thankfully many do not know.


I remember talking with Doug at Mom and Dave's wedding. He was smart, funny, and had a big heart. I remember thinking to myself on the way home I hope I see more of that guy. He was awesome!

Sadly, none of the following visits seemed to allow for this.

It's rare that someone leaves a deep and lasting imprint on us, but that was the sort of person I found Doug to be: Kind, easy to be around, and unforgettable.

Regardless of what brought on this terrible event, all who knew him now must figure out how to live without him. This may normally be uncomplicated for some folks, but I think that in Doug's case, it may be hard even for these.

This is the second person I have known who has committed suicide by hanging. The first was a good friend and a brother of sorts days before my 16th birthday. Now, an Uncle by marriage who made such a big impact over the course of a single day- And his coming mere days before Father's Day.

No one should ever have to plan a funeral over a day dedicated to fathers- And certainly, no father should ever have to plan the funeral of his son. Yet this was the reality for Mom, Dave and his family.

No one should ever have to plan a funeral over a day dedicated to fathers- And certainly, no father should ever have to plan the funeral of his son.


My Mom recently wrote about this event on her blog; please feel free to check it out.

The family has also been under terrible financial strain, and with Doug's suicide, they are now reaching out for help. Reaching out to all of you.

If you can donate anything to help cover the cost of burial and funeral, please consider doing so. Anything above the goal (which is the cost of burial and funeral expenses- No fluff) will go to set up a trust fund for his two children. If you cannot give, then please share this campaign on the social media of your choice.

Thank you for all of your prayers, condolences, thoughts, well wishes, and support. It means the world to the whole family.

God bless you.